I’m have mixed feelings about New Year’s resolutions. I make them more often than not, but I understand why some people argue against them. Most people don’t keep them. And really, it’s not all that healthy to limit your periods of personal assessment, goal setting, and intentional growth to once a year. But there are people who pull off resolutions, and I never want to discourage others from setting goals.
So, yeah. Mixed feelings. I’ll tell you want I don’t have mixed feeling about, though. Condescending judgment.
If you don’t want to make resolutions, that’s fine. If you want to preach to all your friends about the futility of resolutions, that’s fine, too. I mean, I’m likely to tune you out or leave the room, but it won’t offend me that you (1) have an opinion and (2) feel the need to share it, even aggressively. But if someone shares their resolutions with you, no matter what your stance on resolutions in general, do not knock the wind out of their sails.
Be nice. Wish them luck. Tell them they can do it. Save the sermon for someone else.
It’s simple, really. If you feel tempted to take pleasure in raining on someone else’s parade, it may be time to take a good, long, hard look in the mirror. That’s mean. Don’t do it.
You don’t have to agree with others to support them.
And if you’re a writer, I encourage you to consider setting a few goals of your own. Nothing crazy lofty. Steer clear of the unattainable. But you might seize the collective momentum of all the resolution-makers and commit to reading more, or a doable but consistent writing schedule, or even just personal journaling.
No, you don’t have to wait for New Year’s to make those kinds of promises to yourself, but here we are. Don’t avoid growth just to be contrary. Go ahead and jump on the band wagon. We’ve got plenty of room.
Whatever your plans for 2016, I wish you and your family the very best. Happy new year, everyone.